Why Kindness Is at the Core of Who I Am.

Why Kindness Is at the Core of Who I Am

Kindness has always been a guiding force in my life. It’s not just a value I hold, it’s woven into the way I see the world, the way I connect with others, and the way I move through my own journey. But my understanding of kindness hasn’t always been what it is today.

For a long time, I thought kindness was about being agreeable, helpful, or making people feel comfortable. And while those things matter, I’ve come to realise that true kindness goes much deeper. It’s about seeing people, really seeing them, beyond their actions, their struggles, or the masks they wear. It’s about presence, about holding space without judgment, and about choosing compassion even when it’s hard.

Kindness in My Own Journey

If there’s one thing life has taught me, it’s that we never truly know what someone else is carrying. I learned this firsthand during my years in the ambulance service, witnessing people in their most vulnerable moments. Pain, fear, grief, these emotions don’t always show up the way we expect them to. Sometimes they look like anger. Sometimes they look like silence. But underneath it all, there is always a person who just wants to feel safe, heard, and supported.

I carried this understanding into my work as a coach and healer. When I shifted into entrepreneurship, I poured my heart into helping others, but when my business collapsed, I struggled to extend that same kindness to myself. I felt like I had failed, like I had lost my purpose. The voice in my head was anything but kind.

It took time (and a lot of inner work) to realise that kindness isn’t just about how we treat others, it’s about how we treat ourselves. Learning to offer myself grace, patience, and understanding through my own struggles was one of the hardest, yet most transformative lessons of my life.

Why Kindness Matters So Much

We live in a world where success is often measured by how much we achieve, how busy we are, or how “strong” we appear. But I believe our greatest impact isn’t in what we do, it’s in how we make people feel.

A kind word, a moment of presence, or simply holding space for someone to be fully themselves—these are the things that leave lasting imprints on the hearts of others. And the beautiful thing? Kindness isn’t reserved for special moments. It’s in the everyday:

• The way we listen when someone speaks.

• The way we hold back judgment and choose understanding.

• The way we remind people they are seen, valued, and never alone.

The Ripple Effect of Kindness

One small act of kindness can change the course of someone’s day. A smile, a gentle word, or simply holding space for someone can be the reminder they need to keep going. And the more kindness we extend, the more it spreads.

That’s why kindness will always be at the heart of my work, my relationships, and the way I show up in the world. Because at the end of the day, how we treat others, and ourselves, is one of the most meaningful things we can offer.

Vicky x