Unpacking the Power of Forgiveness: A Personal Journey.

As I embarked on my journey this year, I found myself pulling a 12-month akashic record oracle spread that illuminated February’s theme with striking clarity: forgiveness!

Initially, I resisted this message, thinking, Haven’t I already dealt with this? Haven’t I moved on? Yet, through reflection, I discovered that the journey of forgiveness is often layered, revealing what still lingers beneath the surface. As I leaned into this theme, I began to recognise the weight I was still carrying, self-judgment, past pains, and unresolved emotions with others.

This month, forgiveness transformed from a mere concept into an essential part of my journey. It became a call to soften, to let go, and to create space for what lies ahead.

Why Forgiveness? Why Now?

Looking back, I see the areas where I’ve been burdened by guilt, resentment, and disappointment.

Self-forgiveness for decisions I wish I’d made differently, for ignoring my intuition, and for times when I felt I failed.
Forgiveness of past events that shaped me unexpectedly, for endings I didn’t want, and dreams that seemed to slip away.
Forgiveness of others, not to excuse or forget, but to liberate myself from the weight of the past.

Through this journey, I realised that holding onto pain, judgment, or resentment creates energetic blocks that keep us stuck. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing, it’s about releasing. It’s about choosing peace over pain.

The Three Layers of Forgiveness I’m Embracing

1. Forgiving Myself

This has been the toughest layer to navigate. It’s easy to look back with hindsight and think, I should have known better. I should have done more. I should have been different and regret decisions made.

But my past self didn’t have the perspective I have now. She was doing her best, and it’s crucial to honour her journey instead of judging her.

Insight: If I keep carrying self-blame, I’ll never allow myself to fully grow. The version of me that made those choices is not the version of me standing here today, I have learned so much and letting go is a huge part of the forgiving process.

2. Forgiving Events That Changed My Life

There have been moments when life didn’t unfold as I had hoped. I’ve faced deep losses, business, relationships, friendships, dreams that felt destined for me.

For a long time, I resisted these changes, questioning why things happened as they did. Yet, through reflection, I see nothing was truly lost, only redirected. Every ending made space for something new. As I failed I learned, as people left my life I began to value myself more I stopped trying to please people and gained self worth and integrity.

Insight: What if the things I grieve were never meant to stay? What if they were part of the journey, leading me somewhere even better?

3. Forgiving Others & Releasing the Energy of the Past

There are individuals I’ve needed to forgive, not because they deserve it, but because I deserve to be free from the energy of the past.

Holding onto resentment has only kept me tied to what happened. I no longer want that. I aim to reclaim my energy, my peace, and my ability to move forward unburdened. I realised that my expectations of others were rooted in my own values, not theirs. I came to understand that my sadness stemmed from the fact that I would have acted differently, and my viewpoint is uniquely mine. I am not accountable for the actions of others and now decide who to welcome into my life based on mutual respect, rather than my former desire to please everyone.

Insight: Forgiveness is about choosing myself. It’s about no longer carrying the weight of someone else’s actions.

How I’m Supporting Myself Through This Process

Breathwork & Movement – Releasing stuck emotions from my body.
Akashic Record Healing
Embodiment of My Human Design
Journaling Prompts:
- Where am I still holding onto past pain?
- What would it feel like to truly let go?
- What new space could forgiveness create in my life?
Nature & Grounding – Spending time outside to stabilise my energy.
Epsom Salt Foot Baths – Helping me clear old emotional weight.
Self-Compassion Practices – Speaking to myself with kindness instead of criticism.

Letting Go & Moving Forward

I recognise that this process won’t happen overnight. Some wounds may take longer to heal. However, I also know that I don’t want to carry this weight into the rest of the year.

I wish to move forward with clarity, ease, and freedom. Forgiveness is the path that will lead me there.

So I invite you to reflect: Where in your life is forgiveness calling to you this month?

What would it feel like to truly let go?

With love,

Vicky