Feelings
- vcdenning
- Jun 13, 2025
- 3 min read
Updated: Jun 14, 2025
This week I shared a vulnerable post about my feelings on my social media, and the response was overwhelming. People reached out to offer support but also to share that they had been feeling the same, and my post had given them permission to recognize their feelings too. I am blessed to be surrounded by such beautiful souls. The response to my post got me thinking, and I wanted to write here to talk more about the importance of allowing your feelings.
Everyone experiences feelings differently; some of this is down to our human design and some to our own self-awareness. In human design, you have a whole chakra dedicated to emotions; this is your Solar Plexus, and whether this is defined or undefined gives us an entire layer of understanding about how we process emotions (more on this another time or reach out for a reading). There is also self-awareness and allowing. As you know, I have been on a huge self-discovery journey, and now as a result, I am able to recognize my feelings and link them to triggers as well as understand why I am feeling the way I feel, but not everyone has this understanding!
What happens when we don't understand our emotions?
We hide them
We ignore them
We bury them deep inside and put on a brave face
We suffer in silence
We take things out on those we love
We become the victim: poor me, why is this happening to me!
What happens when we hide, ignore, or do any of the above?
We get trapped in the emotion
We suppress, and it becomes conditioning - it's not safe for me to feel, it's not safe for me to share
It becomes a limiting belief caused by the trigger and the emotion - I am not worthy, I am not good enough
Being a victim leaves us wallowing and gaslighting others as well as blaming everyone else
We show our children it's not safe to feel or that emotions are bad
We make others feel awful as a result of our lashing out.
What can we do to change this?
It is so important to allow yourself to feel and to let it process through your body. If you feel sad, allow yourself to cry; if you're scared, talk to someone and share; if you're angry, express that anger (safely and not to others), scream in a wide open space, exercise, and move.
Give yourself time and honor your feelings; they are trying to keep you safe. Acknowledge them and thank them for what they are trying to make you aware of.
Notice your triggers. What has shown up in your life that has triggered your feelings? See them, own them, and understand them (I can help with this).
In the past, my feelings spiraled and sometimes led to low mood, even depression. However, now I have a range of techniques I use so that I can process them.
Tips for allowing yourself to feel:
Allow yourself to feel whatever is coming up
Talk to a friend or someone you can trust
Ground - walk barefoot on the grass, get outdoors in nature
Move - dance, walk, run, move your body in any way that feels good to you
Write it down - journal on how you are feeling and why
Meditate - see below for your free guided meditation
Self-awareness - notice your feelings and understand what's caused them
Self-care - tune into your body; what do you need?
Breathe - simple breathwork tools to self-regulate can be amazing.
Know that you are safe to feel and that by sharing your feelings, you also give others permission to feel
This week I had a beautiful long chat with a good trusted friend, I went for a walk, I shared with you, I journaled, and I meditated, and I gave myself time to cry, to feel. The result: I feel amazing, something has shifted, my energy has changed vibration, and I feel like an even better version of me again.
I hope this has been helpful for you.
If you would like to understand more about how you process emotions, a safe trusted person that will help you understand your feelings and your triggers, book a free discovery call. I would love to help.
With Love
Vicky x
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